Wouldn’t this make a great show? We could watch in horror as the 2 bedroom walk-up, great locale, with amazing lighting is positioned just perfectly above a bass guitar shop that likes to have live shows every night at 9pm. House (or apartment) hunting with misophonia is its own particular nightmare… one I am currently about to live.
Before The Search
I left my last apartment two years ago when it became very loud. Thumping music at all hours, feet slamming on the floor above. I decided to come home to my parents home in the country – prime locale. For what? Lawn mowers 24/7, back-hoes (yes, heavy machinery is chic here), and bright blinking lights every night. Noises. Constantly – and this isn’t even in a city. In-fact, the city was a lot quieter (at least they had noise ordinances).
My hands are pretty much shaking thinking of all the horrors that might await me looking for a new apartment. Will there be loud neighbours? Street noise? Screaming children? There are so many things that can go wrong, and if there aren’t any… I’m sure a new trigger will pop up immediately. Do you ever feel like your brain is just searching for something to make you miserable? Yeah, me too.
In a perfect world I would have millions of dollars (or at least thousands a month) and could find a place ideally suited to my needs, and then soundproof away until I’m no longer hearing anything. God, that would be a perfect reality, would it not? Except, this is the real world… and in the real world there are always going to be sacrifices. I already wear earplugs 24/7, and am often nocturnal to compensate for the noise during the day. Still, this leads to feeling overwhelmed.
I’ve got to say… I’m petrified when it comes to apartment hunting. I’m already thinking of all the new problems that are going to come up and I’m trying to stay calm. I’m considering how I can soundproof a place that I’m not even sure exists yet. I think the worst part is that I can’t even get excited about moving back to a city that I know and love.
Maybe I’m over thinking this. Maybe it won’t be so bad. But, as you all know… misophonia tends to take over every little aspect and make it harder. I’m hoping, for my sake, that I can find a place that isn’t too expensive but is quiet enough that I can manage… we can all dream, right?
The search went pretty terrible (for a while). Hilariously, just like House Hunters, only three places ended up as contenders. So we’ll run through them. The final entry is the apartment that I ended up with. I’m finishing this article a month and a half into living in my new place.
The Potential Options
Apartment 1: Small, and next to a new construction (in progress). I was kind of petrified by it. This apartment was in the middle of the city. A large buzzing electric box emitted so much noise I thought I was going to throw up before entering. And, as a I said, there was a new building being constructed next door. The apartment wasn’t in good shape and I’m pretty sure my cats wouldn’t have fit, let alone my shoes and my two computers. It was also expensive, yet a 1 bedroom. The idea that this was one of my only prospects was horrifying.
Apartment 2: This one was located next to a grocery store. It was my first-choice. I was excited because it looked great in pictures, was near a grocery store, and near a park with a river (I have a kayak). Then, I saw it. It was run-down and there was duct tape on the cupboards. I think they must have taken these photos 10 years ago. There were also screaming children and loud trucks. A true disaster. Not only that, about a month after I moved into the place I chose, this place was very close to a mass shooting (4 victims). Let’s call this one the apartment from hell. It was super grimy in person, and the whole shooting thing was a bullet dodged. Literally.
Apartment 3: I was apprehensive. The photos of this apartment showed gross carpet, a small kitchen, and it wasn’t that appealing. I was supposed to meet with another apartment at the time, but they were flakey so I decided to take a look.
This is what Apartment 3 was supposed to look like via the advertisement. It’s safe to say it wasn’t really my style… but I was desperate.
This apartment was available 2 weeks later than I’d liked, but I decided to take a look anyways… and I was in love. Not only was apartment 3 in a quiet area, it was quiet inside! On the top floor in the corner, by trees, the apartment provides an amazing amount of quiet. The building used to be only for seniors, there’s no children or dogs (they allow cats, which I have). It’s quiet – it’s comforting – and it’s also beautiful! I was horrified when they let me know that they had promised the apartment to somebody else and he’d let me know by the end of the day. When he called me back and offered me the place, I nearly cried!
The Big Reveal
When I originally started this article, I was terrified by the hunt for an apartment. I thought I’d never find a place that would cross off all my boxes (it also has a dishwasher, washer/dryer in unit, a large bathtub and an ISLAND!). Safe to say this looked NOTHING like the photos! This experience has taught me that quiet is possible. I know that some people have other factors that prevent them from finding the perfect place, but I want people that are looking for accommodations with misophonia to know they’re not alone in their struggles.